Why do American people say “I love you”? I always think about this question while I am living in American because I often hear Americans say “I love you” or “I like you” to friends, teachers, and family. Also, when they are talking, their stand is closer to each other than we do in Japan. It is interesting to me. In Japan, I have never said these things to my family or friends. I wonder why do Americans say their feelings directly and why they stand closer to each other.
When I went to home stay, my host father and host mother are close. I often saw them hug and he rubbed her back. They didn’t say, “I love you” but I can feel they love each other from these actions. I often hear young American people say “I love you” to friends and family. I asked Sabrina about this. She said, “It’s a good question, but I don’t know why. I think American people think it is easier to express their feelings. Also, it is our personality.” I think so, too. Japanese people don’t do these things. Some people can, but most people don’t do that. I think Japanese people feel embarrassed to do it. Japanese people think we can understand each other without saying this directly. That is wrong because if a husband and wife live together without telling each other that they love each other, they might divorce. Recently, divorce is increasing in Japan. I think Japanese people should say their feelings. However, Japanese people don’t have the custom to share their feelings, so it is difficult to change our attitude. If I hug or say, “I love you” to my Japanese friends, they would wonder what had happened to me. Sharing feelings is part of the American conversation style. When they are talking, they say their opinions directly, so saying “I love you” is also natural for American people.
I didn’t get accustomed to hugging or saying my feeling directly when I came to America for the first time. However, now I can do because I noticed it is becoming easier to express my feelings. Saying “I love you” is a good way to communicate with family, friends, and my boyfriend. I want to do it, but I can’t say it to my family because I am embarrassed. I think I am more comfortable with many American things, but I am still Japanese about saying “I love you”.
When I went to home stay, my host father and host mother are close. I often saw them hug and he rubbed her back. They didn’t say, “I love you” but I can feel they love each other from these actions. I often hear young American people say “I love you” to friends and family. I asked Sabrina about this. She said, “It’s a good question, but I don’t know why. I think American people think it is easier to express their feelings. Also, it is our personality.” I think so, too. Japanese people don’t do these things. Some people can, but most people don’t do that. I think Japanese people feel embarrassed to do it. Japanese people think we can understand each other without saying this directly. That is wrong because if a husband and wife live together without telling each other that they love each other, they might divorce. Recently, divorce is increasing in Japan. I think Japanese people should say their feelings. However, Japanese people don’t have the custom to share their feelings, so it is difficult to change our attitude. If I hug or say, “I love you” to my Japanese friends, they would wonder what had happened to me. Sharing feelings is part of the American conversation style. When they are talking, they say their opinions directly, so saying “I love you” is also natural for American people.
I didn’t get accustomed to hugging or saying my feeling directly when I came to America for the first time. However, now I can do because I noticed it is becoming easier to express my feelings. Saying “I love you” is a good way to communicate with family, friends, and my boyfriend. I want to do it, but I can’t say it to my family because I am embarrassed. I think I am more comfortable with many American things, but I am still Japanese about saying “I love you”.
2 comments:
This topic is interesting for me:)
I really think so,too! American people say I love you very directly, I think.
So I like Am. Boys because Japanese boys never say that!
Knako, this topic is interesting. American people often said "I love you", so at first I was a little embarrassed, too. Now I don't feel that, but it is still embarassed for me to say "I love you". Maybe, I am a shy girl : )
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