Special Relationship

On October 2nd, I talked with a woman whose grand child is an education student of Mukogawa University. I asked questions about my presentation topic. She listened and advised me kindly and we enjoyed talking.

She told me a wonderful story. She has a husband, whose parents live together with them. They are not blood relations, but the mother taught her a lot of things like her real mother. Her real mother died when she was young because of the war. So she thinks she is like her real mother. They lived together, but they didn't talk a lot. One day she went on a trip by herself. When she came back from the trip, her mother in law asked many questions about her trip. She usually doesn't ask so many questions, but this time she asked many questions. While they were talking, her mother in law suddenly died. She was so shocked and she didn't tell anyone, so it was first time to tell it. I was glad that she told me the story. I think that her mother in law waited her to come back and then decided to die. Her mother in law never told her she loved her, but inside of her heart she really did love her.

Most Japanese don't say " I love you" to their family even thought they love them very much. We understand each other without words. It is also important to talk with people to understand them. Living together, we don't need so many words. I think it is important to understand the people who live together with and love them.

Now I can't meet my family, but I feel my family's love without seeing them. I love them and they love me even though we didn't say "I love you.". It is important to trust them.